Admiration stems from self-confidence.
The root of kindness can be traced way back, into the ancestral collective soul we, as a whole, shared at some point, when humanity was about shelter, about life, about survival of the species, about evolution as monkey started adding meat to their banana-based diets.
The selfless goodness is an abstract concept and I am not a cynical person per-se but this is a truth I observe with my grown-ass almost-30 eyes. We, as humans, were not meant to poke each other, envy each other, belittle, abuse, denigrate. But the modern construct of life, as we now know it, has built certain rules and regulations based on impressionism rather than substance.
So when we see substance in someone, we feel hurt; offended; mildly disgusted. Why?
Because seeing someone portray substance, authenticity, courage, individualistic constructs regarding one’s life, it doesn’t add up to our well-accustomed impressionism: the perfect social media life; the ideal mortgage-ridden life path. The highly successful career we can wow others with.
These are surface-related ideals. They rely on debt, selling free time for someone else’s profit, on fake following and likes, on a number written on our smartphones on an app initially designed for kids.
On a deep level, we know that these impressions can be obtained relatively easy. It doesn’t take much grit, creatively speaking, to fall into someone else’s idea of how you’re supposed to live your life. It’s easier to get paid at a job than growing your own business. It’s easier to start a loan to buy shiny stuff than to save for months or years before buying those things in cash.
That doesn’t mean we should start pointing fingers. There should be people who have regular jobs and there should be people who have long-term debt.
But there should also be people out there who don’t need impressionism to create happiness or to validate their existence. And these people have substance as their inner motor engine to keep going. These are the people who give their free time for their own passion. These are the people who earn money in ways others would never be willing to or would never phantom to. These are people who put their health at risk, their relationships on strings, their families on hold for a passion. For an ideal. For a higher purpose.
That doesn’t mean these kinds of people are better. They’re simply different.
And different is an essential concept we need in our lives, in order to be able to express selfless goodness.
Different can only exist when self-confidence is there, on a healthy and mature level, inside an individual’s personality package.
Accept it. And watch your soul grow.
