On emotional evolution
With much calm, we operate our daily lives under no question mark; we do not ask ourselves why we do the things we do, moment by moment. Only when certain big decisions need to be made, we start observing more sharply and we let the wondering spirit do it’s role and wonder, ask questions, get suspicious, curious, flexible and doubting.
But if you somehow manage to be one of the individuals who question and wonder almost everything about themselves, and not out of doubt but rather out of curiosity and insatiable need for knowledge, then you know the feeling quite well: everything you do falls under the big sign of “?”.
In the past, I have placed this symbolic power of questioning on almost every aspect of my life, all except one: Love. I used to believe love is something already determined, ingrained into my being, as an equation in which two people find themselves, like themselves for whatever reason and they start sharing their lives, going on the same direction. I would haphazardly say I believed love exists so we can complete each other, but I was wrong. I never understood it until I realized I was already whole myself.
The problem with thinking you’re a half that needs filling is that every person who will enter your life while you believe that will need to fit your pre-determined patterns, to fill your pre-established needs. And no one will ever be able to do that, except yourself. There’s a reason why we are not the same and that is why we are only similar. Similarity does not equate with identical.
Once you establish your wholesomeness, you will then start to enter any new relationship with a bit of a different approach: now you see the new people getting close to you as people who are simply there to resonate with what you already are, already believe in, already feel. They will simply provide positive feedback and approval on what already is authentic and powerful to you. They will see through you with thirsty eyes not to complete a certain void in you, but rather to acknowledge what already exists within you.
And that acknowledgement will empower you even more, it will enable you to exist freely, empathetic with them, open, vulnerable and strong, leading and being led, in a way you could have walked alone but choosing to be accompanied by them.
